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So many people enjoy living in the problem.

They can spend entire lifetimes discussing and considering various angles on it without ever moving closer to its resolution. Nations, companies, families, and individuals are all subject to this phenomenon. It seems like news agencies make their livelihoods talking about them. Problems…

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I was in a workshop this weekend learning about the trauma caused by spousal betrayal. There is evidence demonstrating that when a spouse first learns of the sexual betrayal, their brain, under high-tech imagery, looks much like the brain of a warzone veteran with post-traumatic stress disorder.

I learned about…

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So, you’ve blown it. You broke her heart one more time. You did something you promised you would never do. Maybe you had a full-blown affair? Maybe you got caught texting an old girlfriend? Watching porn again? Are you still chewing tobacco after you promised to stop?

I was having…

I can hear it now, “I told you to bring me salt and pepper!” Or, “Where’s the salt and pepper?” Or more sarcastically, “Oh, that’s cool! No salt or pepper!”

According to Deb Dutilh at, studies show that a lack of communication is the number one reason couples break…

“We don’t need your services anymore”. Ouch!

Who likes to be called into the office on a Tuesday morning, one week after being asked to lead a team, only to hear those make-my-heart-skip-a-beat words? Well, to be honest, I do.

Why would anyone in their right mind want to hear…

5:35 pm. Tuesday evening. I just mixed and drank Dose 1. It’s 6oz of liquid bowel prep. Its generic names are sodium sulfate, potassium sulfate, and magnesium sulfate. It’s a clear, colorless, solution used to clean out the GI (gastrointestinal) tract. It actually tastes pretty good! It’s like a salty…

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Welcome to Joyful Revolution. Thank you for checking in.

If you’re like me, you’re worn out from all the negativity in the world and more specifically, in the social media world. …


Never giving your partner the opportunity to enjoy life the way they enjoy life can snuff out the joy of living for that person.

Is one of you constantly telling the other how to behave? Do you find it difficult to simply allow your partner the right to make decisions that differ from what you think needs to be done? Perhaps then, you are acting as a “critical parent” to your adult partner.


5 suggestions for dealing with betrayal and infidelity.

He opens the door as he does at this time every day but this time your eyes lock up with his eyes and you know that he knows that something is wrong. He keeps his cool and asks calmly, “Hey. What’s going on?”

You feel your heart racing, you feel…

John Losoya

Former alcoholic, sex, lust, porn, addict, divorcee, bankrupt, loser, turned successful business owner, writer, a happily married man chasing my dreams!

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